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Lately, I've written to you about four emotional wounds. Shame. Fear. Anger. Abandonment.
And I have a feeling some of you read those words and thought, "That's not really me."
I understand. Most of us don't walk around calling anything a "wound." We use a different phrase. Something that sounds more like everyday talk.
We say it's anxiety. Or a grudge we can't seem to put down. Or that quiet loneliness that shows up even in a full room. Or the guilt that follows us around long after everyone else has forgotten.
But this is what changed the way I see that:
Anxiety is very often fear wearing different clothes. A grudge is anger that settled in and stayed. Loneliness is frequently what abandonment feels like years later. And guilt, more often than not, is shame with a specific memory attached.
Different names. Same four wounds underneath.
That matters, because you can work for years on your anxiety without ever realizing that it really stems from a latent fear caused by a childhood wound.
These patterns are ingrained in the nervous system, below where our conscious thinking happens. That’s why so much sincere effort can still miss the mark.
The Four Wounds suite was built specifically for this.